SAMUEL RATNAM

Thoughts on Social Interaction

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  • Want to be more confident16
    • Why?13
      • I talk much less than most in most group conversations8
        • Not wanting to interrupt people
        • Self filtering increases as potential risks of saying things increases - also latency of filter2
          • Potential benefits of saying things also increases - I am too risk averse
          • Usually risks are pretty low (though feel worse than they actually are), high upside
        • Conversation topic is often something I'm not that interested in2
          • Steer the conversation more towards something I'm more interested in?
          • Maybe this makes the conversation worse for some people
        • Sometimes I'll talk more in a group if it's something that I have a lot to say about or I'm with people I feel comfortable around
      • I am sometimes a pretty bad conversationalist with some people3
        • Sometimes this may be due to having vastly different interests/just being incompatible people1
          • Do I want to present alternative versions of myself in different situations?
        • But sometimes this is because I'm too conservative with the directions of conversation I explore - I never reach the most interesting surface area of their mind
    • How?1
      • Act more like the person I want to be (fake it til you make it)
  • Alcohol(/sleep deprivation)2
    • Sometimes just makes it easier to zone out, time passes by and I'm comfortable
    • When I'm with the right kind of people, can facilitate connection as my internal filter decreases.
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incredibly cool to write your dissertation as a comic book. has some interesting ideas, presented in a fun way. i wish it went further in describing how to actually practically escape flatland

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